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I am a 20-year-old woman who a lot of the time feels inadequate: too hairy, too short, too big, too busted up and broken out…. those thoughts slowly eat away at me. The truth is that I’m healthy: there’s nothing significantly wrong with me but still I’m plagued with insecurities. As an artist- someone who lives for the pursuit of beauty- how can I stand the inevitable shortcomings of my own body?
This feeling seems loathsomely tied to the female experience; we are told from a very young age that to be loved we must first tame our bodies: fit them into the feminine ideal that is so conveniently laid out by fashion magazines; then and only then are we worthy of love. This system sets us up for inevitable failure before we’ve even begun.
My mother suffered from an eating disorder in her teens: running 6 or 7 miles a day, cutting out sugar entirely, and counting every single calorie that passed her lips. She is a strong, talented, and beautiful lady who still struggles with low self-esteem.
How do we fight this? One of the things that helps me when I feel unlovable is to think of the people I love the most: I don’t love them based on their relative attractiveness, I love them for who they are! How perfectly they fit in my life and how they support me when I need them. I guess it comes down to believing that you are enough just as you are and you are worthy of love just as you are.
Whoever you are, there is some younger person who thinks you are perfect. There is some work that will never be done if you don’t do it. There is someone who would miss you if you were gone. There is a place that you alone can fill. ~Jacob M. Braude
Always act like you’re wearing an invisible crown. ~Author Unknown